I recently had a conversation with several women concerning being on facebook. If you have not yet joined the craze or do not know what I am talking about, you can learn more here.
One woman, whom I had never seen before this particular conversation, was saying how she had put off adding a facebook profile because she feared that she would not have any friends. She said, “What if I put myself out there and no one wants to be my friend? What if they reject me?”
This young woman looked to be in her early to mid-twenties, and in my opinion, was absolutely beautiful.
I admit I was surprised by her comments. The truth is, though, I do not know her. I do not know what her life looks like. However, in that brief encounter, I think I learned something about her. I saw something in her with which I, myself, have struggled.
Lack of self-confidence. Poor self-esteem.
I was relaying this conversation to my husband, and he said, “What WOULD happen? Would the earth stop spinning on its axis? Would life as you know it come to an end? Would it really be that bad?”
Well, no. No, none of those things would happen. No, I do not suppose it would be that bad, but when the opinions of others drive your opinion of yourself, it certainly can seem like it is “that bad.”
I felt sad for that young woman. I saw myself at her young age…I saw myself sometimes now.
I have grown a lot. God is working with me…still. I am better than I used to be, but I am not there yet. I am learning to find my identity in who I am in Christ and not who the world says that I am, but it has been a slow, sometimes painful process.
Tomorrow we will talk more about esteem. Self-esteem and what it means to be esteemed by God.